Celebration of life

I have been dreading today as it was the day that I would say farewell to my dear friend Sian. Her mum had said that they wanted to celebrate her life and that was achieved in no small measure. 

  
The tributes began with her brother Aled recanting stories from her younger years and beyond. The words made me smile as memories of our 30 year friendship washed over me. 

The music choices were inspired as they so reflected Sian’s love of Tolkein and Sci-fi. 

Aaron and Matthew’s tribute was so touching and conveyed how loved, cherished and fortunate they are in having her as their mother and was reminiscent of another mother born in 1961 who lost their life too soon, Princess Diana. The shared memories, hopes and dreams will sustain them in the future.

Alec’s tribute was, understandably, difficult for him, but he persevered and once again here was someone in awe of Sian: her courage, her innate kindness and her ability to make everyone feel special. Alec pointedly mentioned her cuddles: Sian was a hugger and the warmth she radiated enveloped you, as well as her arms. I will miss that too.

A poem called the afterglow was read by Ros, Sian’s sister in law. I marvelled at her composure to read the verse. 

Beautiful – as Sian was in every way.  The committal came all too soon and I said a final goodbye to Sian, although I will keep her in my thoughts forever.

Sian had a great chocolate cake recipe and Georgina suggested we bake it on her birthday to celebrate, washed down with her favourite tipple, Bacardi and coke! 

We left the chapel to the strains of ‘where my heart will take me’ again emotion overtook and we left to greet family before travelling to the golf club. 

The serenity shown by all today was a worthy testament to a wonderful woman I was privileged to call my friend and Sian will remain with me always.

The sun shone and the floral tributes were wonderous.  

 
Once home I waited for the sun to begin to set as I wanted a picture to capture the end of today  

 
Life will be different for us all that shared today but we are better people for having shared precious time with Sian and that is worth celebrating.

 

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Parental guidance

For mum’s 80th birthday we bought her an iPad and to her credit she has coped wonderfully with the technology. We rarely speak on the phone these days, preferring FaceTime and that provides the opportunity to see each other too. Oh and occasionally I enjoy the waist high view of my Dad! 

Mum sent me a picture from Sunday and it is lovely.

 
Hard to believe they are octogenarians and reading an article today about Sophia Loren has made me reflect. Mum is the same age as Sophia and has always felt an affinity with her and boy my mum scrubs up as well as Sophia, without the, perhaps, cosmetic assistance miss Loren may have had!  

 In the article Sophia said that when she was 20 she didn’t think that one day she would be 80. But she is, as are my parents :they are lucky and we are blessed that they are still with us and in good health! 

  
They have certainly enjoyed their new home in Scotland for the last 11 years, moving back to their birthplace. 

There are twists and turns, highs and lows  in life but with close family, no matter how far apart they may be, we can always give support and love. It is a privilege to have both my parents to share and still make memories with. They will spend a few days with us in April and I am looking forward to it immensely. 

Kevin is fortunate that his mum at almost 76 is alive, as is his Nan at nearly 95. 

  

His dad died 26 years ago at 54 and we feel that loss every day , although there are times when you feel it more keenly. We often talk about what he would’ve thought about how all his grandchildren have grown, their life choices , and John would have been so proud of them.

When Andrew and Lis got engaged my dad said that when they were born he never expected that he would be around to see the children as adults, and certainly not married. How wonderful that he has and that he went to Australia for their wedding. 

The longevity has hopefully been passed on to Kevin and I so that we can be a part of our three’s lives, and have health to enjoy our own. 

The last few weeks have shown we can’t take this for granted as cruel twists of fate can intervene at any time.

So my parental guidance is smile, be happy, follow your dreams and share your life with those you love, laugh and make memories! 

My friend Sian

  
Today brought the saddest news that my dear friend Sian had lost  her monumental battle against cancer. 

What can I  say, she believed she could beat this and did all she could to try. 

I have been in awe of her courage and the support and love that her family and friends have given. 

An amazing friend, mother, daughter and sister. Calm and just one of the nicest and uncomplicated people I had the privilege of knowing and loving.

I will miss her beyond belief but I will remember her for the rest of my life. 

Sian, I love you and miss you and you have left an indelible mark on me. 

No words can express fully what I feel right now but that is nothing compared to the loss Alec, Aaron, Matt, your parents and brothers must feel. Shine brightly for us! Xxx💕👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻