The first of three weddings in 2018

Yesterday we attended the first of three weddings we have in 2018.

Kevin and I made our way to Royston and checked into our hotel to change into our finery!

I took three outfits and two pair of tights, both which ran as soon as I carefully put them on, resulting in a bare legged look and a last minute change of outfit!

Our cab arrived in good time, and we made our way to Minstrel Court.

Setting was delightful and we were led to the meadow chapel. It was a mild day, but overcast. The groom looked very relaxed and the master of ceremonies said ‘pray silence for the bride’

Alfie, their 3 year old son walked in with a pouch, which we later found out held the rings.

Charlotte looked radiant and Colin a very proud Dad indeed!

Readings were read, vows and rings exchanged and the new Mr and Mrs Foley were presented, all beaming smiles and joy.

Buck’s Fizz was quaffed and canapés served, and the obligatory photos taken.

We made our way later to the dining room where we were treated to great food, wine and heartfelt speeches expressing joy and pride. Thank yous aplenty for efforts that culminated in a wonderful celebration

Colin, the father of the bride, and Kevin have been friends since 1972, and Colin was very nervous about making a speech: he needn’t have worried as he hit the right notes of humour, pride and joy.

Dancing and paella followed with a fantastic firework display. Colin’s 93 year old Nan even tripped the light fantastic.

I love weddings with all the love and hope for the future that surrounds the newlyweds and having known Charlotte all her life made it even sweeter.

We wish them every happiness for the future, may they make memories to sustain them safe in the knowledge that they have the love and support of their extended families.

Can’t wait for the next one in July! 💗💗💗👰🥂🥂💗💗💗


January-sick and tired you’ve been hanging on me….

2018 has been momentous so far, and January has seemed very long, but February has settled in nicely and hopefully Spring is around the corner!

The last ten days have been very busy at work and there hasn’t been much time to do much.

Last year at this time we were preparing to go to Fuerteventura, and some late winter sunshine, and the picture for my desk calendar reminds me of that time

The six nations began at the weekend, and for the first time in years I won’t be attending any. I intend to go next year and maybe the break will do me good( I doubt it)!

I go to Scotland on Friday afternoon for a long weekend to see my parents, and celebrate my Dad’s 85th Birthday!

Driving home tonight the sky was beautiful and I had to stop to take a picture of it. I find myself always thinking of loved ones who have died when I see the sunrise and sunset. I feel their aura and also sadness that they aren’t here to see them, but I remind myself how lucky I am that I can and I savour those moments and reflect on how blessed I am and have been with the people in my life.


This week has been a strange one, lots of excitement and opportunity and not much time to get things done.

Early mornings and late nights with a foray into the unknown. A night at home with Kevin spending time with his mum, an opportunity for reflection.

This week I’ve been told I’m scary at work, and also intimidating: not really adjectives I particularly care for. I asked my kids if this is the case and it transpires that I have a ‘look’ that can wither and give off an aura of confidence that can appear intimidating.

This has staggered me as I am, underneath all that front, a very unconfident person, a people pleaser and very uncomfortable in certain social situations.

I know my job very well and always strive to be the best I can be, I can be very black and white about certain things, but always take into account the grey areas wherever I can. I also use humour to divert attention.

From these comments this week I have taken on board two things:

1. Very few people really know me at work ( their loss?)

2. I will try to avoid the ‘look’ and smile more!

I did some meditation this week at work and really enjoyed that clearing of the mind, so will definitely be doing more of that.

I’m not sure that I want to change how I am perceived at work, as perhaps keeping the two different me’s apart is a good thing!

We will see, I will try a charm offensive, failing that, buy lots of animal print clothing and be ‘scary’ spice! 😘

2018 so far

The year is only 14 days old and it has brought surprises aplenty and excitement too!

A visit to reacquaint my parents with Marion, my second mother in law, after, we guess, 8 1/2 years.

Bouts of “Aussie” flu for me, Kevin and joe!

The decorations came down last week and this past week has certainly been an eventful one.

The space where the tree once was!

Late nights last week culminating in a trip to the Barbican to see RSC Antony and Cleopatra – absolutely brilliant, and Wagamama’s before a real treat!

Today I attended the Christening of Lucas Sydney Robert Pope, and watched as Georgina and Jay accepted the task of being two of his Godparents.

Lovely service, although the Church was freezing❄️❄️

Home and time for some chores, Malaysian curry for dinner and time spent with a recovering Joe and Georgina.

A lovely bottle of red from the Bolney Estate in Sussex and all is well! Plus I made a new friend today if the furry variety. 💕💕

January was supposed to be a quiet month, but with so much going on I don’t think I have a rest until 3rd February, but I wouldn’t have it any other way!

Happy New Year!

Last meal at the Harbour Grill

We opted to eat in the hotel and as it was raining it was a wise decision.

Food was delicious, company great and we toasted the holiday, and Colin’s upcoming big birthday next Sunday.

We again found ourselves talking about our families, the joy the heartache but also immense pride!

It has been awesome and memories aplenty!

Last full day on HI

Our last full day before Four become just two ( three actually as we meet up with Colin).

We go into town to buy breakfast essentials and enjoy the views.

Kevin and I have a drive around and then walk the other side of the marina and also Bommie Deck, where we hope to go for drinks tonight.

One last drive up to one tree hill, then down the scary bit!

Over lunch there are a few tears and reflection on our time here, the memories made and for me the realisation that we are embarking on a new stage of our lives. Kevin is fantastic in how pragmatic he is, not to fight against these changes, but to embrace and enjoy!

Nina and Jay hired a boat for the afternoon and returned after 4pm to regale us with stories of doughnuts and beaching! They certainly had fun!

We all dressed up for our final night and headed to Bommie Deck, and we saw a wedding party there: what a wonderful venue.

To think that below the Deck last week, Jay proposed and Nina accepted, it seems a lot longer. Whilst sipping cocktails 🍸 there was wedding talk. No doubt there will be much more over the coming months.

We returned to Romanos for our last meal with more reflections and returned for our final night in the apartment.

This certainly has been a holiday to remember, with so many stand out memories and HI is a fabulous place and I hope we can all return, and I mean all!

Paddle boards, palms and a puffer fish…

Here we are on a paradise island, with some of the people I love most, and I have had the fog descend on me.

I have thought I could ‘just get over it’, but I have noticeably withdrawn. There is no rhyme or reason per se, but the kids noticed it.

After our beach trip this morning we returned back to our apartment for lunch, and I find myself crying. After a little while I get up to go for a walk to try and shake this off, and Georgina insists on coming with me.

It’s very hot and we shared how we felt: I have to learn to talk more about how i’m feeling, I have to remember people are not mind readers. I have written before about the ‘fog’, I can see it, others can’t, but they see the different, withdrawn person, who doesn’t engage.

I think I’m hiding it well, obviously I’m not.

We all went for a walk to the beach at low tide, and a couple of more conversations were had. I have been blown away with their kindness, concern and very proud of them all.

Walking through the sea lapping around our ankles, seeing fish , crabs, sea snails, with the level rising up to our waists, I almost trod on a Ray! A little further out and a with a helping hand the level dropped away again.

I suppose in some ways this is an analogy of how I can feel on occasion.

The walk was spontaneous, and all the more enjoyable for that. It also brought back memories of Maldon, Cornwall and Lunan Bay.

These moments are precious and I need to be less anxious, and not over think too much and just enjoy the present.

We all visited a local pool, to relax and drank overpriced strawberry daiquiris!

We prepared dinner at the apartment, where Lis shared with us her vegetarian journey and it has spurred me on to have at least on meat free day a week.

We watched the bats 🦇 fly over to their evening stomping grounds.

peace with myself and I hope that I will be able to articulate more quickly how I feel when the fog descends.

Time flies and you find that your children have grown into sensitive, caring adults. How lucky are we. We have a few days left together until next year, so I have to make the most of that!

She said yes! 💍💕💕

For the last seven months, I’ve kept a very big secret (or not) from Georgina and family. It’s been hard, as I have wanted to tell people about the little things that have occurred over that time.

Jay choosing the right ring💍, Georgina changed her mind about style and Jay fretted about having one made, but needn’t have worried as his choice in ring, matches his choice of fiancée, beautiful in every way!

ked Kevin’s permission a few weeks back, and Kevin almost blurted it out after a few days! Is this the same man who kept the trip from Andrew and Lis last year a secret for 5 months?

Andrew and Lis made a banner, after Jay told them, and brought bubbles of both varieties!

as put so much thought into the event, wanting everything to be perfect for Georgina. The last few days he has been so nervous, not because he thought that Georgina would say no, but because it is such a momentous thing to do: a life changer. <<<<
gina was certain that Jay was the one for her, when she first met him, and she resolutely stuck by that. Two trips to Australia, one without Jay and one with, job changes, living with us and daily life with its nuances we arrive at their next chapter.

They are so good together and we are so proud of them as they plan their future and wish them all the love and happiness in the world.

May they remember today forever, I know I will! 🍾💕💕💕💕🤗💍💍

A different corner

It is 36 years ago to the day Kevin and I got engaged. Time has flown by!

Tonight we watched 'Freedom' the George Michael documentary, and I feel quite sad about such a talented man who appeared to have enjoyed only fleeting glimpses of happiness in his personal life.

A voice of such depth, and soulfulness that could evoke tears of joy and sadness in equal measure.

So many of his songs have a place in my journey in life from the early eighties onwards. His premature death almost 10 months ago, still feels unreal, but his music, as I listen to it now, lives on.


One of my favourites was A Different Corner, underrated in my opinion and Chris Martin sang it earlier this year and it closed the documentary. A poignant moment for me.

I felt like crying, but after a few philosophical words with Joe, I have overcome that and appreciate that I have what I have.

Good night xxx

Two weeks in

Well that's two weeks of the Academic year gone

Time just goes so quickly. The start is always frenetic, but this year with the sixth form building project 5 weeks overdue, and possibly another 5 week delay, it's even more so.
Balls in the air trying to ensure all is in place, whilst preparing for a HR audit, a GDPR audit and the ICE visit.

Satisfyingly, things are taking shape, and I feel a real sense of pride. I have had such great support from a Governor, who has been with me every step of the way: we had a shared vision and it has been a delight!

Today provided another boost to my mood with a visit to a brand designer. It is such a fillip to meet people so energised, so full of ideas, a passion for change and to feel 'yes, that hits the nail on the head'!

I walked back to work from the meeting, full of hope, it was a lovely sunny morning, and a dear colleague, celebrating her birthday, had left a cupcake on my desk


We have student art work on the walls and this is being updated and I particularly like one which is in the style of Katherine Jebb. So wonderful to enjoy their talents and achievements.

All in all a great start and long may the positivity remain!