Paddle boards, palms and a puffer fish…

Here we are on a paradise island, with some of the people I love most, and I have had the fog descend on me.

I have thought I could ‘just get over it’, but I have noticeably withdrawn. There is no rhyme or reason per se, but the kids noticed it.

After our beach trip this morning we returned back to our apartment for lunch, and I find myself crying. After a little while I get up to go for a walk to try and shake this off, and Georgina insists on coming with me.

It’s very hot and we shared how we felt: I have to learn to talk more about how i’m feeling, I have to remember people are not mind readers. I have written before about the ‘fog’, I can see it, others can’t, but they see the different, withdrawn person, who doesn’t engage.

I think I’m hiding it well, obviously I’m not.

We all went for a walk to the beach at low tide, and a couple of more conversations were had. I have been blown away with their kindness, concern and very proud of them all.

Walking through the sea lapping around our ankles, seeing fish , crabs, sea snails, with the level rising up to our waists, I almost trod on a Ray! A little further out and a with a helping hand the level dropped away again.

I suppose in some ways this is an analogy of how I can feel on occasion.

The walk was spontaneous, and all the more enjoyable for that. It also brought back memories of Maldon, Cornwall and Lunan Bay.

These moments are precious and I need to be less anxious, and not over think too much and just enjoy the present.

We all visited a local pool, to relax and drank overpriced strawberry daiquiris!

We prepared dinner at the apartment, where Lis shared with us her vegetarian journey and it has spurred me on to have at least on meat free day a week.

We watched the bats 🦇 fly over to their evening stomping grounds.

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peace with myself and I hope that I will be able to articulate more quickly how I feel when the fog descends.

Time flies and you find that your children have grown into sensitive, caring adults. How lucky are we. We have a few days left together until next year, so I have to make the most of that!

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What a wonderful world….

What a weekend it’s been. We’ve certainly had fireworks in more ways than one! 

A few months ago I saw on Facebook an ad for a gin festival in Brighton and booked 4 tickets. It was for the 5th November and little did I know then that Isabella McIntosh would arrive on that day, all 9lb and 5oz! 

A real cutie who will want for nothing in life, and will be loved and doted upon. A first grandchild for Viv and Don, long awaited and I revel in their joy! Lizzie and Daniel will be wonderful parents and they will enjoy every precious moment👶🏼

There was also news of another expected arrival sometime in May 2017, after great sadness, for my cousin’s eldest daughter. Only recently have I been aware of her loss when she so eloquently and courageously wrote about it on Facebook. An honest account that no doubt shared will give others hope and the desire to carry on. She has also documented that she has had her skin inked with a beautiful tattoo as a testament to the little ones she’ll never know. 

Kevin and I arrived in Brighton and made our way with Elaine and Jane to the gin festival. We all tried a few varieties and after three hours we walked home.

It was a pleasant way to spend a cold Saturday afternoon. We enjoyed from the comfort of their home a few firework displays. 


We finished the evening by visiting a local SriLankan restaurant, returning home to catch up with strictly!

Today, after a cooked breakfast, us three girls, went for a walk. The sun was shining and we certainly blew a few cobwebs away! 


As we returned to the car I duly checked my phone and was just so thrilled to see that the couple who were best man and a bridesmaid at Andrew and Lis’s wedding got engaged!🍾💍

Steph played a huge part in introducing Andrew and Lis, and may both her and Russ enjoy this exciting next step! 

So a birth, a pregnancy revealed and an engagement-so much happiness and joy for all touched by the news of each. This is the positive side of social media! 🤗🤗🤗💕

Eight weeks until Christmas……..

Where has this year gone? We are 5/6th into this year with eight weeks to go until Christmas. With this in mind I have used my time off this week starting preparations and have even bought a few presents! There is still lots to do, and with nine for dinner on Boxing Day I will ensure all is in place. 

Halloween 👻 is tomorrow and Nina and jay’s pumpkins 🎃 will be lit tomorrow evening.


But this week has also given me time to just be. I had a memory from last year pop up via Facebook when I last lunched with my dear friend Sian. I have made cards, met another friend’s grandson, cooked and today, enjoyed a lovely walk through Norsey Woods with Georgina.

Autumn colours are a sight to behold: the reds, russets, golds, greens and browns. Nature is a marvellous thing and each season brings its own splendour. 

I love the droplets from mists on leaves and dew laden spider webs. 


What I don’t look forward to, is the mole like existence that will prevail over the next few weeks, both leaving for and from work in the dark! This is all part of the season that is autumn closely followed by winter.

Perhaps these cuties have lost their way to the North Pole? 

November is a busy month so I will have to be organised! 🍁🍂🎄